meeg124
10-01-2010, 07:59 AM
http://shine.yahoo.com/event/lifeslittlepleasures/the-10-secrets-of-one-unflappable-working-mother-2394131/
So what do you think of this article?
So what do you think of this article?
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View Full Version : 10 Secrets of One Unflappable Working Mother meeg124 10-01-2010, 07:59 AM http://shine.yahoo.com/event/lifeslittlepleasures/the-10-secrets-of-one-unflappable-working-mother-2394131/ So what do you think of this article? hlebakos 10-01-2010, 08:16 AM Eh..... Some may apply, but she doesn't quite sound like a SUPERmom to me. I don't think she approached the topic with much empathy or caring. Working out of the home and being a full time mom can be so overwhelming. She wrote about "blurring the lines" but guilt about meeting my child's needs is overwhelming and if I don't keep those things separate, the child might feel ignored. Her job as a newspaper columnist might allow her to bring work home, but checking work email while waiting for kids to come to the dinner table, might turn into a late dinner. If I peek at my computer 10 min. (especially if it is for work) before I have to do something, I am usually really late. Bringing work home? Sure if your kids are older and you CAN sit next to them while they do quadratic equations, but that isn't for everyone. Oh and the heels and thermometer part? No part of my emergency kit. Otherwise, yes, she brings some good thoughts to the table, but I didn't feel inspired and ready to take on work and motherhood. You? Lorah 10-01-2010, 08:27 AM Great points! Especially for someone just getting back into working! Seriously, I thought this (working) was going to be as easy and second nature to me as doing child care, but OMG it's not! And why I didn't see or understand that is beyond me, I'm fairly aware of things I'd like to think. But with child care you are a mom to a few extra kids (a VERY VERY VERY important roll I will always beleive cannot be easily accomplished!!!)....it's all basically the same routine, same games, same diapers, same mom stuff..... It's WAY harder to sit and compose a business letter or conduct a business call or plan to go in and meet with the boss. So, these tips are helpful. I don't think I agree with all of them.... BUT, I like a few! Like putting the kids to bed in their clothes! LOL I do that already when we need to leave early! It helps with the morning melt downs! I also like to add to this by having premade pancakes ready to go! I like the idea for the home office to be central! That's how I have it set it now! It's difficult at times, but I am here, they seem me, and I can both be the mommy and the Public and Media Relations business lady! And one lesson I told myself I HAD to learn this week was: Don't obsess over things no one will remember in five years!!!!! SOOO Important! Both at home AND at work! Thanks for posting this! Lorah 10-01-2010, 08:37 AM Eh..... Working out of the home and being a full time mom can be so overwhelming. She wrote about "blurring the lines" but guilt about meeting my child's needs is overwhelming and if I don't keep those things separate, the child might feel ignored. I am feeling this way... It is VERY Overwhelming for sure! I don't want to screw up with work, and I don't want to neglect my kids!!! Though, Noelle and I seem to have adjusted.... she still just climbs up to nak, and I just switch from typing with both hands to with one ;) I'm blurring fairly well i think...lol Oh and the heels and thermometer part? No part of my emergency kit. Otherwise, yes, she brings some good thoughts to the table, but I didn't feel inspired and ready to take on work and motherhood. You? Yeah, didn't get the heels reference! :lol It didn't "inspire" me, but did offer some encouragement for a newbe. MamaLaura 10-01-2010, 09:17 AM I think there were a lot of good points. If they CAN apply to you, then good. Go for it. It's not her fault that not everything she said applies to everyone. But I think the suggestions were good for her situation, and for situations like hers. lornabrown 10-01-2010, 09:52 AM I thought she was right on! My life and business don't allow me to compartmentalize. It all blends together. I often take 5 minutes to read my book in the car before I go into work. It clears my mind, and besides I'm always 5 minutes late leaving work to get to the next place. Who has time to check emails while waiting for the kids to get to the table? I'm always frantically trying to clear it off so we have somewhere to sit! surmick 10-01-2010, 10:10 AM Agreed that if it works for her then good! I would love to do more work at home and vice versa, but my job does not give me that flexibility. Of course, I am at work right now. :giggle My emergency kit is pretzels with cheese dip, a blanket I can use for a rug/towel/blanket and of course, my Ipad! ;) Michelle28 10-01-2010, 10:36 AM I do a lot of what is in this article and it is working for me. :) The lines are very much blurred between my home and work life. I do my bills at work and work at home. At home I check my blackberry every two seconds - respond to work emails if necessary and move on to whatever it is we are doing at home. It is the only way I have figured out how to survive... stephaniemsw 10-02-2010, 01:48 PM I do a lot of blending, too. Luckily I have had the flexibility to do that. However, I do sometimes worry that I don't spend enough "quality" time with my kids when I am at home. It seems like I am always struggling to get the basic household stuff done (dishes, laundry, picking up toys, mail, etc.) and then trying to make a few phone calls or e-mails when the kids seem engaged in something. I always thought I'd be the type of mom that baked and did art projects and fun stuff with the kids, but I just don't feel like I have the time to prep, supervise, and clean up that kind of stuff! I really have to make a conscious effort now and then to "play" with the girls, because my default is to not do it. I am also lucky that both kids still nap and go to bed by 8 or so, so I end up doing a lot of work during nap and at night. |