The shape of a mother

[Lynette]

This link was on one of my other groups and it made me think of the old man's butt thread so I thought some other mom's might appreciate it :)

http://theshapeofamother.com/

[Lorah]

Thanks for posting that. I have to say, that for those of us who did get the "extras" after childbirth whether in small or great amounts it is always nice to be reminded that our bodies are BEAUTIFUL!!!!

Although I wouldn't change anything...I have to admit, I wouldn't mind being on of those very lucky women who don't get the stretchmarks and look as if they never had kids.... but....oh well. I love who I am. I love my family. I wouldn't change it for the world.

[Lynette]

Although I wouldn't change anything...I have to admit, I wouldn't mind being on of those very lucky women who don't get the stretchmarks and look as if they never had kids.... but....oh well. I love who I am. I love my family. I wouldn't change it for the world.

I know, in looking at that site there were some that I was counting my blessings and some that just shouldn't be on there to make the rest of us feel bad! :lol

[jellybeanmichelle]

Thatnk you for posting that site Lynette!
I was looking at the pictures of women who had C-sections.
I felt like I was looking at my own image.
It's nice to know I'm not the only one who looks like that.

[Luckylove]

I was lucky and didn't get stretch marks on my tummy. I did get small ones on my thighs and some extra love handles. LOL

[becky]

thanks for posting the site...it made me feel better about my body after having 3 babies. Its amazing how much the body can change after carrying a baby for 9 months.

[MJ2day]

thanks for posting the site...make me feel better about my body after having 3 babies. Its amazing how much the body can change after carrying a baby for 9 months.

I've only had one baby and feel the same way. It's crazy how our body's can go though what they do.

[Lorah]

Okay, so I was just looking at this link again. I was just looking though the postpartum bellies when I saw the story about the baby born at 40 weeks stillborn. There is a link to the picture of the sweet baby girl. I cried. My heart broke for that family. I realized that it was just from this January, so the pain for them must still be so real (not that it will ever not be real). I sat here with such a thankfulness that Maverick is alive and well. Here I am joking, yet with some true feeling of upset at times, about my postpartum body and yet I have my son here with me to make it seem more like a badge of honor. How brave and strong a woman must be to not only go the 40 weeks, have the postpartum body as a reminder of her child, and yet lose that child.
I am very blessed.

[becky]

what is even harder is that she mentioned feeling her baby move the day before the c-section. So sad. this happened to a friend of mine only she had to wait nearly 48hrs to give birth to her still born baby because the hospital was too busy.

[Lorah]

what is even harder is that she mentioned feeling her baby move the day before the c-section. So sad. this happened to a friend of mine only she had to wait nearly 48hrs to give birth to her still born baby because the hospital was too busy.

I know. I was so upset at the idea that she was alive and well the night before the scheduled C-Section. Going in and knowing she had been fine just a few hours earlier....then to not have her.

I am so upset for your friend too!!! I can't belive a hospital would do that to someone! Too busy my....you know ..... Thats just NOT right.

[becky]

I know. I was so upset at the idea that she was alive and well the night before the scheduled C-Section. Going in and knowing she had been fine just a few hours earlier....then to not have her.

I am so upset for your friend too!!! I can't believe a hospital would do that to someone! Too busy my....you know ..... Thats just NOT right.There is a link on Jackie's website from a lady who also went through this same thing. I wanted to cry when I read her story.

As for my friend, i can still remember meeting her for the first time as we went on a whale watching trip. she was so excited to be having her second baby. i was devastated when I heard from my moms club president that she lost her baby. I saved that email in memory of her son and it still makes me cry to read it. Fortunately, two years later, she is expecting again and her baby is due in two months.

[Lorah]

I hope this time is a more happy time for her!

[Kellie_MO5]

Yeah... looking at my stomach I notice the stretch marks and extra belly fluff and everything that my 4 beautiful babes gave me, and then the scar that the one we lost left me with... It makes me sad and upset that I have this big ol' ugly scar from a baby that I never got to keep, but then I am glad I have it, so I can never forget, because that is one thing that I don't want to happen and am afraid of, that I will somehow forget that babe that never got a chance to fill his lungs, shed a tear, smile at the sun dancing across the carpet... I am glad that what happened happened in the way it did (though if I had a choice I would wish that I never lost the babe in the first place) because this way I know I will never forget, and rest easy in my belief that I will one day be reunited and finally get to meet my babe... Though what is hard is when I was preggo with Luke the dr's and u/s techs always asked me how many c-secs I'd had (none) and then they'd ask what had happened, so I had to explain everything over and over, which was hard with the hormones and sensitivity to magnified by pregnancy

[Lorah]

Yeah... looking at my stomach I notice the stretch marks and extra belly fluff and everything that my 4 beautiful babes gave me, and then the scar that the one we lost left me with... It makes me sad and upset that I have this big ol' ugly scar from a baby that I never got to keep, but then I am glad I have it, so I can never forget, because that is one thing that I don't want to happen and am afraid of, that I will somehow forget that babe that never got a chance to fill his lungs, shed a tear, smile at the sun dancing across the carpet... I am glad that what happened happened in the way it did (though if I had a choice I would wish that I never lost the babe in the first place) because this way I know I will never forget, and rest easy in my belief that I will one day be reunited and finally get to meet my babe... Though what is hard is when I was preggo with Luke the dr's and u/s techs always asked me how many c-secs I'd had (none) and then they'd ask what had happened, so I had to explain everything over and over, which was hard with the hormones and sensitivity to magnified by pregnancy

Kellie, I am so sorry that you lost a child! I did not know. I think it is wonderful how positive you are about it though. I cannot even imagine how that would make me feel. Thank you for sharing your experience.

[becky]

as sad as this sounds, at least you do have that reminder. those of us who have had miscarriages have only our memory to hang onto, though i think i still have my pregnancy test somewhere.

[stephaniemsw]

Wow... what a powerful site. Sometimes I get so mad at how women's bodies are objectified in our culture, but I feel so lucky that I am a woman and have been able to experience the miracle of pregnancy and childbirth and motherhood.

[Lorah]

Wow... what a powerful site. Sometimes I get so mad at how women's bodies are objectified in our culture, but I feel so lucky that I am a woman and have been able to experience the miracle of pregnancy and childbirth and motherhood.

:yeah Said so well, Stephanie!

[Lynette]

Okay, so I was just looking at this link again. I was just looking though the postpartum bellies when I saw the story about the baby born at 40 weeks stillborn. There is a link to the picture of the sweet baby girl. I cried. My heart broke for that family.

Yeah, I saw that too :( We suffered a loss at 14 weeks before Alaina and that was difficult so I can't even imagine what that poor mom went through :( The link to the story on Jackie's blog with the pictures is just gut wrenching, it is one thing to hear it but to "see" it really makes you hug your baby tighter.

[KaisaG]

Very cool site! I don't have any stretch marks but definitely have a lot more squish going on. My sister is a different story but I was early and she was late so she ended up being pregnant for almost 6 weeks longer than I was... She is seriously considering a tummy tuck after she's done having kids- which I think is really sad :( I'm going to have to send her this link!

[Kellie_MO5]

I was considering getting a tuck when I'm all done.. but I scar really badly, so inthe end I decided it would be better to have a little extra skin (and it will just be skin once I get off my butt and lose the weight..lol) then a big ol ugly scar... plus a tuck would probably take away my old scar, and I want that one to stay...

[LMS]

This is the story of James for any who are interested
http://www.blairblanks.com/james/



I showed the site to Jr and he said "OH! i'm so glad you don't look like that"... I shot him a look to which he promptly responded "oh.. but if you do after the next baby, i'll totally still think you're sexy"
what a bad save.

[Lorah]

Okay, that was very sad! I am glad that she chose to share her story and the importance of kick counting. I know so many women who never do it because they never knew about it.

[LMS]

yeah, and it was just a extra kick in the gut that they were ttc for 3+ years before she got pg with james. :(
they are officially back on IVF right now, trying for #3.

[meeg124]

I showed the site to Jr and he said "OH! i'm so glad you don't look like that"... I shot him a look to which he promptly responded "oh.. but if you do after the next baby, i'll totally still think you're sexy"
what a bad save.


Men are so clueless.

[daisydoc]

I showed the site to Jr and he said "OH! i'm so glad you don't look like that"... I shot him a look to which he promptly responded "oh.. but if you do after the next baby, i'll totally still think you're sexy"
what a bad save.

And he's still alive b/c???? ;) James would be dead! :lol