TRAGIC DEATH

[Katie]

TRAGIC DEATH: Father who left 11-month-old in car had just changed his morning routine


http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/c/a/2007/07/27/MNG9GR85OI1.DTL

[TaivensMama]

How sad, that father must feel tremendous guilt :( Man I feel for the family and that poor, poor baby ...so sad

[CMT]

that is SO horribly sad and SO horribly common :(
It breaks my heart to think of the discomfort that child felt while passing away in that car but I must say I have a lot of sympathy for the father. Imagine how broken you must be to know that one slip up, one change in your schedule shattered your family and killed your child? That's something you don't recover from.

[Colleen&Kail]

how sad, this just breaks my heart. i do feel for the father he has to have that on his mind for the rest of his life.

[Lorah]

This is the news story, Becky, that started the whole story about purple ribbon month I think....its why the suggestion of putting the stuffed animal in the front seat when the kid is in their carseat and then putting it back i9nto the carseat when you take the kid out came from....that way you hopefullyhave a reminder that someone is behind you even if your routine changes.

I FEEL SO BAD FOR THAT FAMILY!!!!

[Theresa]

How sad.

[Lynette]

I can't even imagine :(

[My3sonsplus1]

:( Last weekend while we were out and about trying to scurry around before heading out camping the older 3 and I went to REI to see if we could find a solar lantern figuring if any place in town would have one it would them. DH was in charge of gassing up at Costco and making a quick dash into Trader Joe's; I had to have reminded him 5 times as I was getting out "Remember Elias, don't forget Elias, remember Elias is back there when you go to TJ's." Because when dh has anyone is the car he has everyone so not seeing the other three it would be easy to forget E back there since he's usually pretty quiet. There have been a few times we left the olders at grandma's when E was tiny tiny and I kept repeating to myself "don't forget the baby don't forget the baby" all the way to our destination because it would be so easy to do if your mind was at all not clear.

[Lorah]

I'm guessing your story has a happy ending right Lisa...he remembered him right? I hope. :)

[KaisaG]

I saw this on the news and it totally made my heart sink.

[My3sonsplus1]

Yes it turned out fine :), we have never actually forgotten him in the car but I have a ton of empathy for the fact that we *could have*, given different circumstances. I knew dh was not going to be in TJ's more than 10-15 min tops but I know that is long enough for terrible things to happen should he have forgotten. We were scatter brained that morning trying to scurry around in time to meet my mom at our house at noon. I trust my husband fully but shit happens so I figured better to remind him a couple times as I am getting out of the car than regret not speaking up. We kind of made a momentary decision on who wanted to come with me anyhow so it was not planned out ahead of time who would remain in the van with daddy and who would go with me. Elias is still mostly breast fed so that is another aspect; besides still being rear facing and pretty quiet he usually is with me at all times so it would have been fairly easy for him to quickly "assume" Elias was with me and not him. He probably didn't need my "reminding" at all anyhow but what if that reminder did help him not to forget...

[becky]

this is so sad. Last night i was trying to find the story as i was speaking with the grandmother of Kaitlynn....she is what started purple ribbon month. I feel so bad for the family.

[CMT]

lisa: :hug that's so scary. It would be SO INCREDIBLY EASY to forget, especially a young baby, in the back of the car. My mom was telling me that that's why she couldn't have a kid at her age b/c she could see herself doing something like that. So scary

[My3sonsplus1]

lisa: :hug that's so scary. It would be SO INCREDIBLY EASY to forget, especially a young baby, in the back of the car. My mom was telling me that that's why she couldn't have a kid at her age b/c she could see herself doing something like that. So scary

Did you read that we HAD left him before? We never have, but I can empathize with "someone" doing it. I have nightmares about it, but in reality I never have.:thumb

[CMT]

no, i read what you wrote. that you were worried about DH leaving him in the car b/c he ONLY had elias. That's why i said "It WOULD be so incredibly easy..."

[My3sonsplus1]

no, i read what you wrote. that you were worried about DH leaving him in the car b/c he ONLY had elias. That's why i said "It WOULD be so incredibly easy..."

:thumb Didn't know if you were empathizing with me personally because you thought I had... not that it matters if you thought I did or didn't since you like me aren't really "judging" iykwim... We have just been blessed enough to never have found ourselves in that position. My heart breaks for that family :(

[Lindsay]

I hate hearing about things like this. I'm often disturbed for months afterward. It's really just so horrifying to me that things like this happen. That poor child, poor family.

[becky]

the sad truth is that it happens more than we think though the numbers are going down. I forget the stats but a couple years ago was the first time ever there wasn't a death in California but that has since changed as we already have a think 7 this year.